- Dec 22, 2007
You learn the most interesting things, which you didn't even know you were looking for at first.
Here are a few of the things I would never have guessed, and have learned since yesterday:
Trust: one should be willing to tell the other what they think and feel.
Comfort: one should be as comfortable doing or saying anything in front of the other as they would be if they were alone
Care: I define this as not only feeling sympathy, but the willingness to make a personal sacrifice for another's gain. One is not only willing, but will take the initiative to give up something they want, or to do something they don't want, in order to make the other happy. This should be up to, and including, a one to one ratio – i.e. a sacrifice of equal magnitude to the gain the other gets from it. In any particular instance the ratio can be higher (I give up something I strongly want to give you something you moderately want) but overall it should not exceed 1:1; that would be an indication of a non-mutual, and ultimately unhealthy, relationship.