I question things which people take for granted. I would have been that kid who said the emperor was naked. In real life that kid would probably have been lynched, but I'll take my chances...
I believe truth inherently valuable, no matter how well intentioned the ideology it dispels may be.
I also write about random interesting things from my personal life.
FemDom vs. Feminism: Power doesn't come from penetration (and other complaints about porn)
What I was searching for doesn't seem all that extreme or strange.
Something where the female was in control, and the focus was on her getting
whatever she wanted.
There is plenty of the inverse. Too much. There is also of course a
healthy amount where no one is dominant, the majority in fact.
Female dominated (or FemDom for short) is shunted off to the side as a fetish,
a subset of BDSM (bondage domination/submission sado-masochism).
Of course male dominated BDSM exists too, and occasionally is even pretty good. But there is also lots of male
dominated porn which doesn't fall under the BDSM category. Its regular
sex, with no pain or bondage involved, but the guy is clearly in control of the
situation, and his partner is there to please him. In and of itself, I'd
have no problem with that - so long as it were balanced.
I feel like I want to write, but I don't have a topic.
Actually, that's not true. I have several: adoption, consciousness, short-term dating/serial monogamy, and I doubt I'll ever be satiated of ranting about the injustice of a system that allows unrestricted accumulation of wealth across generations.
But as much as I feel like writing, I even more don't feel like writing about any of that stuff.
So I guess this will be more diary entry than essay.
The second arrow has been a recurring theme in conversations with many people
for over a year at least.
You feel a certain way because of conditions or events in the external world,
perhaps out of your control.
For whatever reason, you feel you shouldn't feel that way.
So then, in addition to feeling bad because of the real life problem, you also
feel bad for feeling bad.
It is ok to show weakness. It is ok to be sad. Sometimes anger is appropriate.
It can never be wrong to feel a certain way. You feel how you feel.
It can never be immoral to feel a certain way. Your feeling alone can not hurt
anyone else. It is only your behavior, actual actions and words, which can do
harm, and feeling a certain way never forces you to act out in a particular
Besides, from a purely practical stand-point, it is ineffective, in fact
Say, for example, you make a resolution to work-out more. And then you don't
end up sticking with it. The real problem is the consequences to your physical
body. But in addition you feel bad about yourself for your lack of discipline.
Feeling bad about it doesn't make you more likely to actually do it. It just
makes you feel bad.
Nobody is perfect, yourself included, and it is best to recognize and accept
that fact. Never add insult to injury by measuring your self against imaginary
ideals, telling yourself you aren't good "enough".
Tons of cocaine produced in South
America, shipped to West Africa,
in Europe, supporting war lords, organized crime, and
corruption in all of its stops. Investigation or opposition leads to
In Guinea-Bissau the police are virtually powerless because the
military itself smuggles drugs.
It got me thinking - there should be someone to certify fair-trade cocaine.
It would be organic. The farmers who grew the coca would make a decent living.
And no one would be allowed to murder journalists and retain the fair-trade
But as I formulated this idea, I ran into some potential problems.
Then I realized, there is a much simpler solution, and one which is even more
Meth can easily be produced locally. Since coca doesn't grow in this
climate, it has to be shipped across continents, which, just like with
non-local produce, has enormous externalized costs. They make meth right
here in Pinole and El Sobrante, even closer to home than the fruit at the Farmer's
So there you are. Smoke meth. Do it for social justice. Do it
for the planet.
I tend to spend time around certain type of people. I feel fortunate to live in a place where there are so many like-minded people to be drawn to, and to have attracted to me.
They work in education, or in jobs with a direct environmental benefit.
They are socially aware, concerned with the world outside of just their own personal lives.
As such they tend to buy local food, used clothes and furniture, they are vegetarian, vote regularly. They bicycle and take transit, or if they drive its a sub-compact shared with other people, a hybrid, or powered by veggie oil.
They value things like education, cultural understanding, and tolerance.
They see that the way we do things here is not always necessarily the "best" way to do them. And a part of valuing what other cultures has to offer entails traveling to other places and experiencing them first hand.
Driving that most-visible-of-all-symbols-of-American-consumption, the H2 (the Hummer luxury model) across the country with a couple of passengers, along the 3000 miles of Highway 80 from SF to NY, uses less fuel and causes less pollution (per person) than doing the same journey in a full loaded commercial passenger plane.
In other words - if you travel by plane, you don't get to look down on Hummer drivers.
A single round-trip intercontinental flight more than negates an entire year's worth of commuting by bicycle.