My intention was to do like one of my clients when they got married: he took her last name as his middle name, and she took his last name as her middle.
But my partner wanted everyone in the family to have the same last name, which certainly seems reasonable.
She also wanted to keep both of her parent's last names, in honor of them. But she didn't want to have 4 names. Also reasonable.
So she decided to hybridize her maiden middle and last names (one of each of which were her parent's last names) and make that her middle name, and then take mine for a last name.
Brotsky Williams becomes Willsky.
Me, being all egalitarian and such, found it acceptable for her to take on some of my name only if I was doing the same. And, conveniently, I had no middle name. So I'll take her new middle name as my own as well.
*Or, at least - that's the plan. It turns out the state of CA has some very arbitrary, but strictly followed, rules on what names you are allowed to have when you get married.
You can change your name to whatever you want, so long as it isn't fraudulent (like someone else's name) or offensive. Moonbeam Unicorn Rainbow is totally ok.
But it can't be done as part of the marriage process.
For that, you are limited to exactly:
As a last name:
-The current last name of either spouse
-The last name of either spouse given at birth
-A name combining into a single last name all or a segment of the current last name or the last name of either spouse given at birth
And for the middle:
-The current or birth last name of either spouse
-A hyphenated version of the current middle name and current or birth last name of the person or spouse
On the plus side, it was almost all inheritance money, which is actually kind of great, because it solves the problem of getting lasting tangible value or even dividends from unearned money (which matters to me on ethical grounds). And we got a great party, and to see a bunch of family and friends we rarely see at the same time.
Also included on the cake were our pets, Didi and Franklin, and also a very detailed representation of my biodiesel powered work truck, hand-modified by my mom
I meant to get video of that, but I accidentally put the camera on photo mode instead of video, so we will just have to remember what is was like in our memories!
(Also, if you were there, and would like to add to that album, just let me know and I'll send you the upload link)